/ Aug 19, 2019 06:22 PM / No Comments on Islam and gender reassignment surgery / 530 viewsIs gender reassignment surgery halal if the person is a trans naturally and not cosmetically, and if not, what does Islam instruct trans Muslims to do to help in their lives, and are there any special exceptions for them such as in attire and marriage etc? The Qatari Fatwa Authority permits gender reassignment surgery on […]
/ Apr 15, 2018 05:20 PM / No Comments on Buhaisa (Name) / 4040 viewsBuhais (transliteration: Buhaysa, Arabic: بهيسة) is an Arabic name for girls that means “courage”, “boldness”, “bravery”. It is the feminine form of Buhais. There is one female Companion of !PM named Buhaisa: Buhaisa (last name unknown) بهيسة غير منسوب Below is the name Buhaisa written in Arabic naskh script: Below is the name Buhaisa written in […]
/ Feb 03, 2019 03:34 PM / No Comments on Fearing that you will never find your true love / 1858 viewsAselam Aleikum I am a young sister who fears she will never find the right spouse in life 🙁 I believe it’s easy to find a spouse (if Allah wills) but it is hard to find the right spouse who in love with you. Your “true love”. Do you you have advice? Alaikumassalam wa rahmatullah, […]
/ Apr 15, 2018 01:27 AM / No Comments on Barza (Name) / 10189 viewsBarza could refer to two different names: Barza (1) Barza (transliteration: Barza, Arabic: برزة) is an Arabic name for girls that means “dignified”, “self-respecting”, “respected”, “one whose good qualities are apparent”, “a dignified middle-aged woman who mixes with men and takes part in their conversation and is listened to (because of her wisdom and status)”. […]
/ Mar 23, 2018 03:47 PM / No Comments on Uthaila (Name) / 4274 viewsUthaila (transliteration: Uthaylah, Arabic: أثيلة) is an ancient Arabian name for girls that means “noble”, “highborn”, “queenly”. It is the feminine diminutive of Atheel, which means “noble”, “deep-rooted”. Uthaila is also mentioned as the name of a place/area in Arabia belonging to the Bani Asad tribe. Uthaila is also spelled as Othaila, Othayla, Osaila, Osayla […]
/ Sep 09, 2017 11:06 PM / No Comments on What is the right age for a Muslim woman to get married? / 957 viewsWhat age is the right age for a female to get married?? Islam doesn’t specify it, leaving it to the person’s culture. In Egypt, the average age at marriage for women is 27.9, in Jordan it is 23.8, in Indonesia 22.3, in Palestine 20.
/ Nov 07, 2017 02:17 PM / No Comments on What are the manners and rules of performing wudu and prayer? / 889 viewsWhat are the manners and rules of performing wudu and prayer (for a female)? Learning how to perform ablution and pray properly requires a lot of detail and I cannot give it in an answer or two. Please check out Asad Tarsin’s book Being Muslim: A Practical Guide, which mentions all the details of praying and […]
/ Nov 15, 2017 07:31 PM / No Comments on Can Muslims marry but never have children? / 1301 viewsI (a female) want to get married but I am also not okay with the idea of having children, nor do I like children. Is having a child a must when one gets married or do we have a choice? My family always say that we must have children and it makes me feel totally […]
/ Mar 16, 2018 10:44 PM / 1 Comment on Ama (Name) / 6797 viewsAma (transliteration: Amah, Arabic: أمة) is an ancient Arabian name for girls that means “female slave”. It can also mean “devoted worshiper of God”. It is the feminine equivalent of the ancient boy name Abd. The word Ama is usually added to one of the names of God to create composite name, such as Amatullah (made […]
/ Mar 17, 2018 06:10 PM / No Comments on Amra (Name) / 7497 viewsAmra (transliteration: ʿAmrah, Arabic: عمرة) means “headdress”, such as a turban or a hat.. It can also mean “spacer bead”, a small bead added between large beads in a pearl necklace. Amra may also be spelled as Amrah. There are 20 Sahabiyyat (female Companions of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him) named Amra: Amra […]
/ Mar 21, 2018 03:58 PM / No Comments on Asiyah (Name) / 9005 viewsAsiyah (transliteration: Āsiyah, Arabic: آسية) is an Arabic name for girls that means “melancholic” When describing a building, it means “sturdy”, “robust”. It also means “column”, “pillar”. Asiyah is also used to refer to the continent Asia, although today the standard way to refer to Asia is the word آسيا (Āsyā). Asiyah is also spelled […]
/ Mar 21, 2018 04:55 PM / 2 Comments on Asma (Name) / 15551 viewsAsma could refer to two different names, as covered below: Asma (1) Asma (transliteration: Asmāʾ, Arabic: أسماء) is an Arabic name for girls (also used for boys in ancient Arabia) that is a variant of the name Wasma according to the grammarian Sibawayh (760 – 796 CE), which means “beautiful”, “charming”, “lovely”. The word Asma is […]
/ Mar 18, 2018 06:52 PM / No Comments on Aqrab (Name) / 4202 viewsAqrab (transliteration: ʿAqrab, Arabic: عقرب) is an ancient Arabian name for boys and girls that means “scorpion”. There are three Companions of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) named Aqrab. One of them is male, the other two are female: Aqrab bin Abi Aqrab عقرب بن أبي عقرب Aqrab bint Salamah عقرب بنت سلامة […]
/ Apr 15, 2018 12:53 AM / No Comments on Bareera (Name) / 17181 viewsBareera (transliteration: Barīra, Arabic: بريرة) is an Arabic name for girls that means “one fruit of the arāk tree”. The arāk tree (scientific name Salvadora persica) is the tree from which the Arabian toothbrush, the miswāk, is made. The literal meaning of Bareera is “faithful”, “loyal”, “dutiful”, “devoted to good deeds and worship”, from root birr (“dutifulness”, “faithfulness”, “the doing […]
/ Apr 13, 2018 04:49 PM / No Comments on Badiya (Name) / 5071 viewsBadiya (transliteration: Bādiya, Arabic: بادية) is an Arabic name for girls that means “desert” as opposed to ḥiḍāra (“inhabited area”). In Arabian culture it has a similar meaning to “the country” in England, it refers to the places outside the towns where the nomadic people live. The name has a positive connotation, since it refers to […]
/ Apr 14, 2018 05:55 PM / No Comments on Baqeera (Name) / 3805 viewsBaqeera (transliteration: Baqīra, Arabic: بقيرة) is an ancient Arabian name for girls that refers to a type of garment worn by women. Its literal meaning is “something that has a slit, because it was worn by putting it over the neck through a slit in the garment. Ibn ʿAbbād says it is worn by Indian […]
/ Apr 15, 2018 12:26 AM / No Comments on Baraka (Name) / 4592 viewsBaraka (transliteration: Baraka, Arabic: بركة) is an Arabic name for girls that means “blessings”, “blessedness”, “good fortune”, “increase”, “prosperity”, “abundance (of good things)”. There are three female Companions of !PM named Baraka: Baraka bint Tha`labah بركة بنت ثعلبة Baraka al-Habashiyyah بركة الحبشية Baraka bint Yasaar بركة بنت يسار Below is the name Baraka written in […]
/ Apr 15, 2018 12:35 AM / No Comments on Bareea (Name) / 4159 viewsBareea (transliteration: Barīʿa, Arabic: بريعة) is an Arabic name for girls that means “beautiful”, “admirable”, “a woman who is extraordinary both in beauty and intelligence”. Bareea is also spelled Baria, Bareeya, Bari’a, Baree’ah, Baree’a, Bari’ah among others. There is one female Companion of !PM named Bareea: Bareea bint Abi Harithah بريعة بنت أبي حارثة Below […]
/ Apr 11, 2018 06:57 PM / 3 Comments on Azba (Name) / 8235 viewsAzba (transliteration: ʿAdhba, Arabic: عذبة) is an Arabic name for girls that means “pure and wholesome” (when describing water), “charming”, “agreeable”, “sweet”, “delightful”. Azba may also refer to a type of tree that is poisonous to camels and a type of medicine. There is one Sahabiyyah (female Companion of !PM) named Azba: Azba bint Saad […]
/ Apr 15, 2018 01:03 AM / 1 Comment on Barra (Name) / 9116 viewsBarra (transliteration: Barra, Arabic: برّة) is an Arabic name for girls that means “affectionate”, “kind”, “gentle”, “dutiful”, “pious”, “doer of good deeds”, “virtuous”. Barra may also be spelled Barrah, Bara, and Barah. There are three female Companions of the Prophet Muhammad PBUH named Barra: Barra bint Abi Tajrat برة بنت أبي تجراة Barra bint Abi […]
/ Apr 20, 2019 03:28 PM / No Comments on Does it matter to God what religion we embrace? / 855 viewsDoes it matter to God what religion we embrace? And is it important to us to know which of all the religion that exists on earth is the true one? It matters because God has His own plans about how history should unfold. A person born in Islam is part of Islam’s historical timeline, inheriting […]
/ Apr 28, 2019 02:31 PM / No Comments on Al-Jahiz’s approach to knowledge and culture / 1154 viewsAl-Jahiz (d. 868 CE) had an interesting approach to foreign cultures that I believe should be the modern Muslim’s approach as well (despite disagreeing with him on theology): Jahiz was to advance the theory and practice of Adab by employing it as a system for the study of nature and society, a system that eschews […]
/ Apr 28, 2019 02:17 PM / No Comments on Waiting patiently for the end of hardship / 758 viewsAsalamaleikum.. I have gone thru hard time for almost a year. I try to stay high in faith and sabr but it’s very hard. I keep waiting for something good to happen, but nothing has happened yet.. feeling depressed. Is it actually true that if I am grateful I will get more? Because I’m waiting, […]
/ Apr 23, 2019 08:40 PM / No Comments on How to stop feeling jealousy and envy / 506 viewsI don’t know if you received this or not, but I asked if there were any surahs which stop making you jealous, or any dikhr. Thanks. Sorry I don’t think I received it. I don’t know of any surahs or dhikrs to do for jealously. This is a character problem that would require commitment to […]
/ Apr 26, 2019 03:10 PM / 5 Comments on A Muslim who wants to only follow the Quran due to the contradictions in Hadith / 3018 viewsSelam I come from Sunni tradition. As I try to do more in relation to my faith I have tried to learn obout history of islam. I am becoming more interested in being Quaran only muslim. I have big problem with hadiths. So many contradictions to Quran. They almost complicate relationship with God. They almost […]
/ Apr 25, 2019 04:25 PM / No Comments on Does God really laugh? A study of the hadiths on God’s laughter / 7084 viewsA review of Livnat Holtzman’s article “Does God Really Laugh? Appropriate and Inappropriate Descriptions of God in Islamic Traditionalist Theology.” There are a few hadith narrations that mention the laughter of God, which is something not mentioned in the Quran. One of the best-known hadiths mentioning God’s laughter is the following from Abū Hurayra: So […]
/ Apr 23, 2019 09:55 PM / 4 Comments on A Manual of Civilized Sexuality / 14521 viewsMy new book A Manual of Civilized Sexuality: What Science, Feminism and Our Pornographic Culture Cannot Teach Us about the Most Important Things in Love, Romance and Intimacy is now available on Amazon.com. While this book is written for a general Western audience, the contents are extremely relevant to Muslims interested in understanding Islam’s views […]
/ Apr 20, 2019 03:50 PM / No Comments on On wanting to make someone convert to Islam / 371 viewsSlam alicome my brother I really like your page and because of Allah and then you, I feel I become good and strong believer in Allah. My question actually is not a question : I know a woman who works in subway restaurant and we like talking about religions sometimes and It’s one of my […]
/ May 07, 2019 04:52 AM / No Comments on Is the name Zayyan Ahnaf al Musawwir appropriate? / 492 viewsCan I keep the name Zayyan Ahnaf al Musawwir or al Musawwir for a baby boy? It is best to use Abd al-Musawwir rather than al-Musawwir because al-Musawwir is one of the names of God and it is not clear if it is appropriate for humans. Zayyan Ahnaf is appropriate.
/ Apr 30, 2019 06:28 PM / 1 Comment on The difference between sexual fantasies and reading erotic novels / 2192 viewsAssalamualaikum, I read your answers for not reading any erotica in novels but how is this different from it being okay for young persons to have sexual fantasies as another question determined? Jzk Alaikumassalam wa rahmatullah, The difference is that sexual fantasies are a consequence of a natural hormonal state. Since God does not burden […]
/ Jun 04, 2019 12:21 PM / No Comments on How to know when it is time to convert to Islam / 426 viewsAs-salaamu alaykum! I am from a non-Muslim family but I have been thinking of converting. How will I know when it is right to do so, and how do I start when I do? I live in east London so there are many mosques near me, but I wouldn’t know which one is best to […]
/ May 10, 2019 02:21 PM / No Comments on On conspiracy theories / 537 viewsWhat are your thoughts on conspiracy theories? According to a former US government official the CIA invented the phrase “conspiracy theory” to discredit US dissidents who criticized certain actions of the US government. It is, for example, widely known that the Roosevelt government did its best to plunge the US into World War II; they […]
/ May 11, 2019 12:59 PM / No Comments on Being plagued with fear of displeasing God and becoming misguided / 951 viewsSalam brother. Jazak khair Allah for this blog. It has helped me greatly. My question is that sometimes I am plagued with terrible thoughts. I am afraid of kufr and arrogance and Allah being displeased in me. I pray 5X Salah and read the Quran daily. I have increased reading surah Nas and say istaghfirallah. […]
/ May 14, 2019 01:46 PM / No Comments on The right way to end an argument / 988 viewsSalam, the Prophet PBUH said there is reward to leave an arguement even if you are in the right, so when My mother tried to argue with me about giving food to the cat (that would otherwise go in the trash). It was v late at night and she was increasingly getting angry and I […]
/ May 24, 2019 05:32 AM / No Comments on Is it wrong to not be a traditionalist Muslim? / 421 viewsIs it wrong to not be a traditionalist Muslim? I am a Muslim and I value Islamic tradition and history, but we are now living in a different era and probably there are things that is irrelevant to us now, like hand-cutting or stone-throwing. Every generation of Muslims faces the challenge of reconciling Islamic tradition […]
/ May 26, 2019 05:15 AM / 1 Comment on Shah Waliullah on the Art of Being Knowledgeable / 2561 viewsThe religion of Islam, perhaps more than any other religion, is characterized by its emphasis on scholarship (daneshmandī دانش مندی in Farsi/Urdu), on the acquiring of knowledge (ʿilm) and wisdom (ḥikma), and on the sharing of knowledge through education (Rosenthal, 2007). The responsibility of the education (taʿlīm) of mankind is taken up by Allah [swt] […]
/ May 28, 2019 05:40 AM / No Comments on Is it hypocritical to perform salah when it feels like a burden? / 1731 viewsassalamu aleikum, is it hypocritical to still pray when salah feels like a burden sometimes? Alaikumassalam wa rahmatullah, No, quite the opposite. Praying when you do not feel like it proves your loyalty toward God: you are able to override your instincts and make your ego perform its duties whether it wants to or not. […]
/ Jun 07, 2019 03:30 PM / 1 Comment on She wants to convert to Islam while enjoying her bisexual lifestyle / 900 viewsHello, possible convert here. I have one issue and it’s this. I’m a bisexual teenage girl, I’ve enjoyed a relationship with another girl and I don’t want to suppress that part of me or rule out the possibility of marrying a girl. I’ve read some of your articles on LGBT+ stuff in Islam and that’s […]
/ Jun 04, 2019 06:56 PM / No Comments on Wanting to be good but having bad instincts / 448 viewsI have a sort of personal question i feel like by nature im a very bitter and harsh person i cant help but hv cruel thoughts while im never willfully malicious to ppl i always have the urge to very mean and antisocial it makes me feel very bad and i try to be nice […]
/ Jun 09, 2019 04:24 PM / 6 Comments on Why People Dislike Middleman Minorities: A Fix for Thomas Sowell’s Blind Spot / 5469 viewsOn most days of Ramadan, fasting makes it impossible for me to do my usual programming and writing work. For this reason I spent most of the daytime hours of this Ramadan reading books, finishing over 20 books (mainly audiobooks). For years I have been aware of Thomas Sowell as perhaps the greatest living African […]
/ Apr 15, 2019 07:39 PM / No Comments on They cannot stop sinning despite their worship and feel like a hypocrite / 1064 viewsSalamalaikum Brother Ikram, I hope all is well. I tried to implement what you mentioned in your essays into my life. But I still feel guilty, shameful, and lonely. It’s a part of life now. I have been patient and I have sought therapy for a long time as well, but nothing seems to work. […]
/ Apr 17, 2019 02:49 PM / No Comments on Who does “Woe to those who pray” refer to? / 4914 viewsAssalamualaikum brother. In this verse “So woe to those who pray. [But] are heedless of their prayer – Those who make show [of their deeds]. And withhold [simple] assistance.” [Quran 107: 1-7] is it only referring to those who pray just for ‘show’ or also those who struggle to concentrate during prayer? / sometimes I […]
/ Mar 14, 2019 05:08 PM / 1 Comment on On how to stop masturbating / 27723 viewsAssalamu alaikum, can i ask on how to stop masturbating? Ive tried and stopped for a week, but then i accidentally started again. Repetitively failing to control myself had me felt useless, and ive starting to lose hope with myself. Thank you for your consideration. Your ability to control your impulses only matures after the […]
/ Apr 15, 2019 03:46 PM / No Comments on Loving someone but sexually desiring another person / 658 viewsAsalam Walikum, I have an issue. I feel that I can’t stop having these intimate desires for this person, I can’t stop feeling hormonal about it. I do like someone else but I like that person romantically not sexually. I do fear that if I end up with that someone else I’ll still have sexual […]
/ Mar 30, 2019 03:17 PM / No Comments on “I feel like I failed God’s test” / 1196 viewsI feel like I failed God’s test that was sent to me, miserably. What do I do? Ask for forgiveness and realize that you will be tested again and again every day of your life. If you fail one test, you still have the opportunity to pass thousands of tests in the future. Never let […]
/ Jun 13, 2019 06:37 PM / No Comments on Converting to Islam against parents’ wishes / 479 viewsI want to take my shahada infront of an imam but my parents do not support me. I tried going to church and I felt like I died inside and I cried for days before going to church( I know it sounds dramatic but my heart only belongs to Allah). My parents are also open […]
/ Feb 28, 2019 10:16 PM / No Comments on When life’s difficulties cause you to doubt God / 2856 viewsSalaam, I feel like everything in my life seems to be going wrong. I am losing my faith in Allah and his plan for me. I am a good and genuine person, all I want is to build for my future etc, I cannot find a job although I have two good degrees, I started […]
/ Mar 08, 2019 10:17 PM / No Comments on How a Muslim should fight the harmful influences of Western movies, shows and music / 516 viewsHello. Do you have any advice for someone who is struggling with faith? I am a Muslim Arab girl, but being constantly exposed to western movies, shows, music and their general detachment from God and religion is really starting to shake my faith. Please help. Hello, Your faith will only be as strong as the […]
/ Mar 08, 2019 10:18 PM / No Comments on Should you wear the hijab before homosexual women? / 974 viewsIs it wrong for girls who wear the hijab to show their hair in front of girls who are homosexual? Would it be a big deal (as it becomes a sin) if they called me pretty and all those compliments? The purpose of dress codes in Islam is to take sexuality out of public interactions […]
/ Mar 08, 2019 11:00 PM / 11 Comments on The difference between a woman’s mani, mazi and wadi / 87289 viewsSalaam. Pardon me for asking this, for it’s heading towards women privacy, but I had to ask. How to tell between wadi, mazi, and mani from women? Thank you very much for your time reading and answering this question. Jazakallah khayr. Manī (ejaculate) is a liquid that sometimes comes out with orgasm and smells like […]
/ Mar 14, 2019 04:49 PM / No Comments on Why do people get jealous? / 441 viewsWhy do people get jealous? Also, how can I protect myself from nazar (evil eye)? Humans have a natural tendency to feel unhappy when they see someone who enjoys blessings much greater than they enjoy themselves. Some people are not pious enough to fight this tendency, so they feel a strong desire for the blessed […]
/ Mar 19, 2019 03:58 PM / No Comments on On men and women having a partition between them at mosques / 597 viewsSalam Brother! What is your stance on men and women having a partition in mosques? If yes, why should they have one? The partition is not necessary, but it can be helpful in reducing unnecessary contact between the sexes. It is not a matter having to do with rights and freedoms. It is about creating […]
/ Mar 27, 2019 02:24 PM / No Comments on Is menstruation a punishment from God? / 4639 viewsAslamalaikum, I was wondering whether menstruation is a punishment from allah swt as I have heard that it was sent down as a punishment for hawa after she told adam to eat the fruit from the tree but I have also read that it is a blessing which I don’t fully understand how it can […]
/ Mar 29, 2019 03:03 PM / No Comments on How to be humble and sincere when doing good deeds / 304 viewsAssalamualaikum, I would like to ask you how do we be humble and sincere in our deeds in life. I am asking this because I am struggling to apply these two virtues in my life. It also caused me to be depressed when I am doing something to achieve pride,arrogance and peer recognition. Alaikumassalam wa […]
/ Mar 30, 2019 03:40 PM / No Comments on Losing faith in yourself as a believer after failing many times / 749 viewsAssalamAleikumWarahmatullah How does one have faith in yourself after disappointing yourself many times? I pray during day, listening to music at night. I study Quran 3 days a row, I don’t study for 3 weeks. I keep going forth and back. I lose hope in myself and am very disappointed in myself.. Alaikumassalam wa rahmatullah, […]
/ Apr 15, 2019 03:20 PM / No Comments on Is studying hard science a form of worship (ibada)? / 1988 viewsAssalamualaikum, is studying STEM topics considered an ibadah, and if so, how do we make sure that the things we study may benefit us in the akhirah. Thank you. Alaikumassalam wa rahmatullah, My own thinking is that if we do the minimum of daily worship necessary to maintain a high character, and if our life […]
/ Mar 31, 2019 09:41 PM / No Comments on It is permitted for Muslim women to marry if their guardian wrongfully prevents the marriage / 1228 viewsi am a virgin woman of 35 and and my burning desire to marry a man of my choice and luckily i have found that man…but my family my guardian who is my brother does not in anyway recommend me to marry him…the person i m willing to marry is holding an upright character ,he […]
/ Apr 02, 2019 10:20 PM / No Comments on Islam and magic / 7371 viewsSalamalaikum, I really appreciate you taking the time to answer the questions posed to you with so much in depth research (my earlier ones included). May Allah reward you. To my questions, what are the signs/indications of magic done on a person or household. And if black magic is something we Muslims believe can happen? […]
/ Apr 04, 2019 04:11 PM / No Comments on Advice to my younger self / 2300 viewsIf you could give advice to your younger self, what would it be? I would give myself two pieces of advice: 1. You cannot guide yourself Even if you spend years reading the best available books, without God’s help and guidance you will never be able to achieve guidance. Whomever God guides is the guided […]
/ Apr 04, 2019 04:31 PM / No Comments on Improving your relationship with your parents / 488 viewsI don’t have a great relationship with my parents. How can I improve it? I believe the best way is to achieve a high character and a selfless, generous and forgiving attitude. Dealing with people when having such a personality will naturally make them like you more. So work on yourself first and constantly ask […]
/ Apr 05, 2019 05:37 PM / No Comments on How do you know the person is the one you should marry? / 1837 viewsHow do you know the person is the one you should marry? It’s just that there are so many options and I don’t want to regret this major decision that is going to change my life. There is no criterion that you can use to know with absolute certainty who the right person is. So […]
/ Apr 06, 2019 02:34 PM / No Comments on He can’t stop using “goddess” as a compliment / 1506 viewsIs it haram to say goddess to someone you find beautiful? I can’t stop saying that and it’s becoming chronic. What should I do? As discussed in this previous answer, it is unclear whether that is halal or haram, but it is clear that it is not a good thing to do. So do your […]
/ Apr 10, 2019 02:28 PM / No Comments on Is seeking knowledge better than worship? / 631 viewsAssalam brother, Islam encourages us to seek knowledge and in one of the hadith said it is better to seek knowledge than to perform the daily spiritual activities (e.g. zikr, reads quran, perform sunnah), my question is what kind of knowledge do we need to seek according to the hadith? I think I’m lacking in […]
/ Apr 11, 2019 03:27 PM / No Comments on She needs ten hours of sleep every night / 534 viewsAssallamualeykum! I find it very hard to sleep less since my very childhood. If I don’t get enough sleep, I get annoyed easily. The perfect amount for me is 10 hours. And I think, more than affecting my success in life, this much sleep takes me away from prayers from time to time. I’ve tried […]
/ Apr 14, 2019 09:52 PM / No Comments on Are disturbing dreams a sign of a bad character? / 1033 viewsAsalamAlaikum I lately have been having some disturbing and disgusting dreams. They feel so real that I get shocked when I wake up. I take refuge from Shaitan, and ask Allah to forgive me. Do you have any knowledge about this, why I get dreams like this? Things happen that I would never do in […]
/ Apr 14, 2019 09:53 PM / No Comments on Her father does not support the family because they receive welfare / 326 viewsAssalamualaikum, my mother receives welfare benefits and that’s how she has raised our family. My dad never supported us financially and he says it’s because our mother received welfare so he didn’t have to. Is this valid? Or his he not fulfilling his rights. Jzk -p.s. (the welfare money was never in his name as […]
/ Jun 07, 2019 04:17 PM / No Comments on Productivity tips / 401 viewsAssalamualaikum, i was wondering if you have any productivity tips regarding reading and doing our daily work? Alaikumassalam wa rahmatullah, I used to read many articles and follow many websites that were dedicated to increasing personal productivity. But I realized at some point that it was all irrelevant to me. For example having a clean […]
/ Dec 26, 2019 08:59 PM / No Comments on How to be hard on yourself and easy on others / 446 viewsSalam, I know there’s an idea that you should be hard on yourself and easy on those around you. How can/do you identify when you’re being too easy on yourself? Should the majority of my life be focused on self improvement? I feel like I’ve dedicated a lot of time to this but it hasn’t […]
/ Jun 16, 2019 03:26 PM / No Comments on On political correctness / 348 viewsWhat do you think of ‘Political Correctness’? I consider it an extremely harmful thing. Political correctness simply means that an unelected elite decide for the rest of society which truths they are allowed to speak and which truths they are not allowed to speak. In the United States this basically means that those who own […]
/ Dec 05, 2019 07:44 PM / No Comments on Where to start when studying Islam for the first time / 395 viewsI don’t come from a religious family but after certain circumstances, I have found myself wanting and needing to know more about my religion. Do you know where to start? I feel a little overwhelmed. I’m assuming establishing prayer is first. Thank you! I recommend you start by reading The Study Quran. Give it a […]
/ Nov 11, 2019 10:09 PM / No Comments on Are we patient if we complain silently to God? / 709 viewsIf we complaint silently in hopes that God listen to our hearts, does that count as patience? Sure. Complaining to God is what the Prophets did, peace be upon them, when they were being patient. 85. They said, “By God, you will not stop remembering Joseph, until you have ruined your health, or you have […]
/ Nov 11, 2019 10:13 PM / No Comments on Is it sinful to curse or swear when startled or angry? / 28207 viewsHello, i want to ask, is it a sin if i swear/curse when i’m angry or startled? Thank you in advance Hello, The Quran says: God does not like the public uttering of bad language, unless someone was wronged. God is Hearing and Knowing. (The Quran, verse 4:148) So speaking curses aloud is not recommended, […]
/ Nov 11, 2019 10:14 PM / No Comments on On distrusting people after bad experiences and heartbreak / 315 viewsHello. Is it natural that we tend to have a distrust in people when we got our hearts broken over and over again because of their words or actions? I have bad experience by interacting closely and intimately with people in the past and until now, that I feel like I’d become a misanthrope at […]
/ Nov 19, 2019 02:28 PM / No Comments on Dealing with a narcissistic mother / 3515 viewsAssalamualaikum, what advice would you give someone who has an emotionally manipulative and narcissistic mother? I don’t feel natural feelings of love towards her because it’s clear to me that she doesn’t like me. And when I need to help her with things it’s not with a positive feeling, and that makes me sad because […]
/ Nov 19, 2019 02:30 PM / No Comments on Can newlyweds use birth control? / 549 viewsBrother, is it okay for a newly-wed couple not wanting to try for baby for their first sex? Is it okay to wear condom to prevent pregnancy until later we do it again for the desired time and moment? Islam permits birth control, so you are free to use it for as long as you […]
/ Nov 19, 2019 02:33 PM / No Comments on The Islamic view of cutting ties with a stepfather / 1338 viewsIs it sinful for me to refuse to see my stepfather after he cheated on my mentally ill mother? The Islamic prohibition on cutting relations with relatives only applies to blood relatives, not in-laws, stepparents and children, so you are free how you decide to treat him. It is of course best to forgive him […]
/ Dec 05, 2019 06:31 PM / No Comments on Are humans just snippets of a book written by God? / 353 viewsAre we just snippets of paragraphs and chapters, written from the best of writers in a book so vast and deep beyond comprehension of the characters the author created? That is one way of looking at it, except that we are not just characters being written by the author. We are also co-authors. So it […]
/ Dec 05, 2019 06:40 PM / No Comments on Mindfulness in Islam / 338 viewsWhat is “mindfulness” in Islam? That refers to being in the moment and clearing one’s mind from thinking about the past or the future. In Islam the best way to pray (perform salah) is to practice mindfulness while doing it. I like to focus on my soul while I pray, which immediately makes me focus […]
/ Dec 05, 2019 06:41 PM / No Comments on Can we gift the Quran to non-Muslims? / 1739 viewsAssalamualaykum. I’m thinking to give a Quran as gift for my non Muslim friends. I want to make it special and also want to let them to have the opportunity to know about Islam/Allah. Even they actually haven’t show any interest with faith or asking me directly about Islam yet. What do you think? Or […]
/ Dec 07, 2019 03:55 PM / No Comments on Can women go to umra without a mahram? / 832 viewsالسلام عليكم Ur timely replies mean so much to so many ppl. I thank u on behalf of them all. My qs is:: 2 middle aged women undertake 4 hr plane journey to saudia for umrah Will sincere& جائز dua made during this visit to Kaaba be considered for acceptance? In my previous qs just […]
/ Nov 09, 2019 07:57 PM / No Comments on Why can’t Muslim women lead prayers? / 1020 viewsAssalamu walaikum. I have a debt, I read here, that for important reasons a woman can lead prayers at home to her family members, but why can’t she in mosques? Why aren’t there women leading prayers inside mosques? (I know there are many men guiding prayer, but wanted to know about women on this spiritual […]
/ Dec 07, 2019 04:17 PM / No Comments on Can you go to the mosque for prayer without calling first? / 331 viewsAssalamu alaykum, I am the Anglo-American convert that messaged a few days ago about my heartbreak. Thank you for your advice. I have been reading the Qur’an daily again (something I lapsed in doing). I want to get involved with my local community center, but am fearful to be shunned due to the color of […]
/ Dec 08, 2019 03:27 PM / No Comments on Is it permissible for a daughter to dislike her father? / 771 viewsAll fathers do a lot for their daughters even after they get married. In our culture it is a way to keep respect of ur daughter at her in laws. But my father didn’t even give me dowry and now he doesn’t even give a penny after marriage. Even if I tell him u humiliate […]
/ Dec 08, 2019 03:33 PM / No Comments on Is meat from Christians halal? / 655 viewsI’m a revert and my parents always cook non halal meat for dinner (no pork). A somali brother said to me it’s ok as it’s “christian” meat. What can I do? because out of respect and manners I eat it. Doesn’t this invalidate my salah or du’a? Unfortunately meat and poultry from Christians is not […]
/ Feb 27, 2019 01:18 PM / No Comments on Rolling sleeves and pants in prayer / 1787 viewsSalamu alaikum. Brother, I want to ask that I read somewhere a very long time ago that we are not suppose to roll our shirt’s sleeves or our pants to pray. Is it true and what does that mean? Shukran. Alaikumassalam wa rahmatullah, There is a hadith mentioned in Sahih al-Bukhari and Muslim that says […]
/ Dec 26, 2019 09:53 PM / No Comments on Is depression a character flaw or weakness if it interferes with Islamic duties? / 468 viewsAO, on your answer about depression and anxiety, a lot of times I struggle with faith bc depression & anxiety deprives me of motivation & energy and fills my head with all these thoughts, and I feel so guilty because of the way it interferes with my ibadah, I wish I just had the will […]
/ Dec 26, 2019 10:13 PM / No Comments on Islam and nationalism / 493 viewsAsalam Alaikum❗️ Do you have any advice on how to not be a nationalist? Sometimes I feel too proud and have too much love for my country and culture. I feel it is wrong, since I should only be that proud of islam and being Muslim, alhamdulillah 🤲 But sometimes I just forget, and idolize […]
/ Dec 26, 2019 10:15 PM / No Comments on Did God forgive Adam for disobeying Him? / 659 viewsbro prophet Adam (as) was forgiven or punished?I know that Adam AS was created to b sent as khalifa on earth but this verse of Quran: get down [from the Garden to the earth] some of you being the enemies of the other, and there is on the earth your abode and the necessities [of […]
/ Jan 04, 2020 06:13 PM / No Comments on How to stay hopeful when Muslims are so weak and subjugated / 3429 viewsالسلام عليكم و رحمة الله I have been reading through this website a lot recently and they helped me better understand my religion and integrate it into my scientific of thinking . I might not agree with you on everything but you have my thanks and respect Now as for my question : how do […]
/ Jan 04, 2020 06:21 PM / No Comments on On masturbating due to the unavailability of one’s spouse / 13990 viewsi am a married man with children, but are some circumstances that push me into this act. some times my wife does not surrender herself or make herself available when i really need her for sex. secondly, i engage in this act during the breastfeeding period because my wife can never allow to come near […]
/ Jan 04, 2020 06:51 PM / No Comments on On getting close to Allah / 3069 viewsAssalamualaikum How can we get closer to Allah? I was am a firm believer in Allah and I follow almost all Islamic duties except praying all five times (due to laziness) . I know it’s very important to pray but whenever I resolve to pray regularly I do so just for a few days and […]
/ Nov 11, 2019 09:13 PM / No Comments on On avoiding anger and dislike when arguing with people about religion / 367 viewsAs-salaamu ‘alaykum. May Allaah bless you. I benefited greatly from two of your books: “The Sayings of Ibn al-Jawzi,” and “The Sayings of Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah.” ….. ….. One of the sayings by Imam Ibn al-Qayyim, may Allaah have mercy on him, stood out for me. He said that, as we increase in knowledge, we […]
/ Oct 28, 2019 02:42 PM / No Comments on Difficulty in praying due to a mental block / 897 viewsI don’t know how to word this properly, but for a really long period of time, I just feel when troubles come up in life, I get extremely emotional and overly sensitive. I can’t focus on school and my worth ethic drops and I spend all my time crying or distracting myself. A lot of […]
/ Jun 28, 2019 10:22 PM / No Comments on On fearing loss of faith in a non-Muslim country / 354 viewsAssalamualaykum. I’m a bit worried now. I’m applying for an internship in a non-muslim country. Even I already lived there for a year, but the worries still there. It’s all about how can I survive as a Muslim in a secular society who tend to think logically about everything. I used to hear a question […]
/ Sep 11, 2019 05:46 PM / No Comments on Avoiding self-pity as a Muslim / 1208 viewsSalam! Do you have advice on how to not pity oneself. I didn’t realize how much I actually do this and how it goes on to affect the way I interpret my daily life and past. Alaikumassalam wa rahmatullah, I believe the cure is to have a very firm belief in the fact that God […]
/ Jun 30, 2019 03:07 PM / No Comments on Making up fasts after repentance, missed due to lack of knowledge / 792 viewsAO, what is the verdict for covering missed fasts? I grew up a Muslim but was never taught to pray & when I was young my parents discouraged me to fast bc they thought I couldn’t handle it. Also they use to think swallowing saliva broke the fast so it felt impossible for me. For […]
/ Jul 04, 2019 04:07 PM / No Comments on How to have barakah (blessings) in all aspects of our life? / 320 viewsHow to have barakah in all aspects of our life? I believe the way to do that is to avoid sins and to dedicate a certain amount of time everyday to extra worship, such as reading the Quran for an hour everyday. Reading the Quran helps you avoid sins, correct character defects, and recognize the […]
/ Jul 05, 2019 05:45 PM / 6 Comments on The Problem with Quranism / 1772 viewsWhat do you think about Quranism? (The idea that we should rely on the Quran, augmented by reason and experience, for our spiritual and ethical lives, and not the Hadith? It makes a lot of sense to me that God would want us to follow his message, with the aid of the gifts of feeling […]
/ Jul 17, 2019 08:15 PM / No Comments on Answers about Islam and misogyny / 809 viewsHey assalamu alaikum I’ll forward some messages here from previous conversations with someone who gave me worse explanations Alaikumassalam wa rahmatullah, I broken up your question to address them individually. there’s something called child support he pays money to support his family not to pay his supposed to be wife I feel worse about myself […]
/ Jul 23, 2019 08:02 PM / No Comments on She has difficulty resisting masturbation / 11176 viewsI am a girl I have suffered from masturbation for a very long time ever since I was a child and I didn’t even know what I was doing and yet I was addicted to it as I grew up I tried very hard to abandon this but every month or so I reach a […]