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IslamQA: On wanting to make someone convert to Islam

Slam alicome my brother I really like your page and because of Allah and then you, I feel I become good and strong believer in Allah. My question actually is not a question : I know a woman who works in subway restaurant and we like talking about religions sometimes and It’s one of my dreams is to be the reason for making someone Muslim. Can you please help me how to make her Muslim how should I start with what should I say? Thank you

Alaikumassalam wa rahmatullah,

It is natural to wish to share the blessing of Islam with people we like. But I don’t think we should make it a goal to convert specific people to Islam. Wanting to “make” anyone Muslim is the wrong attitude to have. The Quran constantly reminds the Prophet that he cannot guide to Islam whomever he wishes and that it is up to God to guide the ones He wants:

You cannot guide whom you love, but God guides whom He wills, and He knows best those who are guided. (The Quran, verse 28:56)

Converting to a religion is a very personal experience. Trying to force this experience on someone never works. Rather than attaching your heart to the possibility of her converting to Islam, you should leave the choice completely to her. You can sincerely answer her questions and show her by your good manners that Islam is a good way of life. But you should always remind yourself that even if all of the people in the world tried to convert, if she does not want it, it will not work.

Humans have been honored by God to be able to independently choose their own religion. We do not have the right to interfere with this by attaching our heart to the idea of converting someone to Islam and making them our “project”. Our task is only what the Quran calls balāgh; to clearly and sincerely represent Islam (most importantly by our manners and conduct) and to transmit it to those who want to know about it.

But if they turn away—We did not send you as a guardian over them. Your only duty is only balāgh (communication). Whenever We let man taste mercy from Us, he rejoices in it; but when misfortune befalls them, as a consequence of what their hands have perpetrated, man turns blasphemous. (The Quran, verse 42:48)

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