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IslamQA: Avoiding negative assumptions about people

Assalamualaikum. I hope you're doing well. I want to ask something about making assumptions especially negative ones. How can I avoid from making this assumption and why exactly I am making all of these negative assumptions. I can't seem to understand and can't figure it out. If you can help me with this problem I would appreciate it. Jazakallahu kheir.

Alaikumassalam wa rahmatullah,

It may have to do with brain chemicals. For example, people with schizophrenia have very high dopamine levels which makes them make negative assumptions about people and build up whole imaginary stories about how those people are trying to persecute them and they actually believe it all.

As far as I know the best solution is to read the Quran daily. It will help you stop caring about what other people think of you and what they do toward you. It has helped me deal with every person in my life with a clean slate. Regardless of what they have done in the past, to me every day is a new day where I’m ready to treat them as if I have never experienced anything but good from them. If you try to force yourself to be this way, it never works because your emotions and attachments will get in the way. But once you are attached to God and not to the worldly life, then it becomes second nature to be this way.

Best wishes.

And God knows best.

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