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“I am tired of fighting and tired of trying…”

how could life fight me so hard while i didn’t do anything to deserve this hurt ,, I am tired of fighting and tired of trying, i don’t need this life I don’t want it, i can’t hold on, life is not for me i think i came here wrong i don’t belong here i don’t know where i even belong but it’s not here,, you should give it to someone else a dying baby whose parents are crying for his life or maybe a dying old father who has children crying for another day with him,, u should give it to them not me

Life’s difficulties are training for what comes afterwards, in a year or two. No difficulty lasts forever. Instead of succumbing to your difficulty and listening to Satan’s whispers when he tells you your life is purposeless and meaningless, patiently wait until God changes things for you.

If you lose hope in God in times of extreme difficulty, it means you will also lose your dedication to Him in times of ease. There is no such thing as a true friend of God who is close to Him and worships Him when things are going easy and who then turns his back on Him when hardship befalls them.

God teaches us to think the best of Him at all times. Satan  tells us to think the worst of Him, to lose hope in His mercy and question His wisdom. Which voice do you choose to listen to?

When you can, follow the steps I describe in my answer God has not abandoned you.

If you cannot find the motivation to do anything to get closer to God, trust in His saying “with hardship comes ease” and do your best to survive until things change.

What is “sabr”?

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What is sabr actually? Is it to learn to be stoic?

Sabr means “patience”, its literal meaning is “to withhold”. To have sabr means to be able to withhold yourself from doing anything that displeases God. In times of hardship, sabr means not to complain, not to think negative thoughts about God, and not to give up worshiping Him and seek refuge in other things.

In times of ease, sabr means to withhold yourself from using God’s blessings to disobey Him. It also means to continue worshiping Him as ardently as during times of hardship, instead letting times of ease make you complacent and lazy toward worship.

To have sabr means to be steadfast. Regardless of what life throws at you, if you have sabr, you continue to obey and worship God, withholding yourself from doing things that displease Him.

God and depression

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While the immediate cause of your depression could be chemical imbalances in your brain, other health issues, or life circumstances that are out of your control, the ultimate cause is distance from God, because He has the power bring about all of the right circumstances that would cure the depression. As the Quran says:

Whosoever fears God, God will create for him a way out. (The Quran, from verse 65:2)

This way out of depression will probably not be something obvious and instantaneous, it will be subtle changes in your life that lead you out of it, if you continue to be patient and thankful, instead of jumping right back into a sinful and heedless lifestyle as soon as the sadness is gone.

When hardship befalls someone, they return to righteousness and seek God ardently. When the hardship is lifted, they go back to a life of heedlessness, only doing the minimum that Islam asks of them and engaging in minor sins. God sends them a new hardship to cause them to become pious again. They return to worshiping God properly and showing Him proper respect, until hardship is lifted, only for them to go back to heedlessness.

The way to break out of this cycle is to seek God during times of ease as ardently as during times of hardship, so that you no longer need hardship to make you truly heedful. As long as times of ease cause heedlessness in you, you will suffer hardship.

How to increase iman (piety and mindfulness of God)