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2 thoughts on “Mentally disowning one’s family

  1. Anonymous

    What I mean by mentally disowning them is to not declare openly to them that I do not want anything to do with them. My parents has emotionally neglect me since childhood and even though they have change a little bit now, the pattern is still there: they do not use communication as a means to solve problems in our home. My father had slept separately from my mother for almost my entire life. I don’t really know what’s the problem, as when I asked him he’s never really open about it and I only know the one-side of the story. I asked my mother what happened, but she refuses to tell me either. Do I have to leave them alone, regardless how I know about the situation? Am I not allowed to interfere into my parent’s problems? As a child, it’s not my intention to be nosy, but it’s my way of being care towards them.

    Lately, I have grown sick of thinking about them. Seeing them interacting in a superficial way, depriving from sincerity, trust, and emotional connection. I’m sick of my family situation, even though I know some of the families out there who faced with situations harder than mine. I want to leave home, but I’m not confident enough to go and make a living for myself. I hate to work for a company.

    I’m sorry for rambling in your comment section. I don’t know where to go for help in terms of my personal problem.

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    1. Ikram Hawramani Post author

      As long as you carry out your duties toward them then how you feel about them in your heart is your own business. Focus on improving yourself and try to forgive their faults and do what is right regardless of whether they deserve it or not.

      Best wishes.

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